I have been fortunate to have great friends by my side — female friends that have rubbed my back while I hugged the porcelain god, one friend even opened my droopy eyes and plucked out my contacts so I wouldn’t sleep with them on. Then there are my male friends. They’ve bought me drinks, allowed me to sob on their shoulders and even confronted men who’ve disrespected me. What a lucky girl I am!

Still, boys will be boys. Male hormones overpower logic and they attempt to sway female comrades and home girls into the sack. I’ve never been interested; I strategically friend men whom I’m not attracted to just so I don’t want to bed them. Some women, however, are open to being “Friends with Benefits.”

The Friends with Benefits or FWB relationship provides both parties with sexual healing while still maintaining their single status and friendship. It is usually established when two friends are experiencing a drought of sorts. They check each other out, filled with lust and loneliness, and begin a conversation that may go a little something like this:

“Do you want to have sex?” The initiator suggests.

“But…we’re friends!” The other may respond.

A back and forth ensues. If the friends decide to provide one another with benefits, then some things must be discussed before their romp in the hay.

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Sujeiry Gonzalez is a vibrant writer, author and on-air talent that tells it like it is -- with just a little more sass and a ton of laughs. Coined the ‘Latina Carrie Bradshaw,’ she is the host of “The Sweet Spot with Sujeiry” on ChicRebellion TV. She’s rocked the relationship market since 2006, sharing her pearls of wisdom with CNN Latino, Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Latina Magazine, and more. Author of Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles, the 2013 Love Guru on Exitos 93.9FM owns LoveSujeiry Magazine – a community for women to dish on love, dating, sex and The Power of Self-First.

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