You Met The Kid(s) But Don’t Be Their New Papi
You meet her kid(s) in due time and suddenly you feel like you have to be present and responsible for them, filling in the role of their father. Well, you don’t. Elizabeth shared that she had this exact experience with a former paramour. They eventually broke up because he got “cold feet” about a role he initially took on “I was like, WTF?!”
“I never go into a relationship saying, ‘I’m looking for my kids new father.’ They have a father!”
Worse Things A Man Can Do
Lastly, caballeros, you have to be careful with what you say and do around these women who are, essentially already in a relationship – with their kids. The most crucial thing is to not lead the woman on. “If you don’t want to be in a stable relationship, be honest,” said Eli, 35, a mami of two boys from Lawrence, MA. “She may or may not have time for that.” Or as Angy, a single mama from the Bronx said bluntly: “Don’t play games!”
A quick cheat sheet on other mistakes to avoid:
- Curse, smoke or drink in excess around her children
- Discipline her kids
- Trash-talk their dad
- Don’t pressure her to introduce you to her child(ren).
- No booty calls! The kid may just be in the other room.
So, single men, take heed. Go on and date single moms with a new awareness. Remember: she’s a mom first. Respect her time and her children and you may woo her after all.