Sexual Innuendos Are A No-No

Women hear cat calls on a daily basis, so the last thing we want is a man telling us how he’s going to rock our world. Jacque Rose Bent, a singer/songwriter from Portland, Oregon, also experienced something similar. “This guy grabbed a handful of my hair, looked wildly into my eyes, and said, ‘I want to pull your hair so bad.’”

How offensive!

Can you recover? The ladies I asked say no. If you’re disrespectful, you will never get past the first “hello.”

Money Doesn’t Talk

We, as women, understand financial struggle, but it doesn’t mean we want to discuss it at first sight. Stay away from lines like, “Wow, these drinks are expensive.” You will seem painfully frugal, and woman desire a man who can provide. As for how to get the girl, recover from your cheapo statement by saying that, though the price is preposterous, you believe in paying for good quality. On the other hand, don’t spew words of luxury, like Gucci, Louis Vuitton and Prada, just to impress. Braggarts aren’t usually welcome among our kind. To be on the safe side, just throw the money talk out the window!


You’re ex is the past, so why do you keep bringing her up in the present? We don’t want to hear how much you miss her and how she broke your heart. Cursing her name isn’t any better. But you can recover. A man I met was so angry about his last relationship; he recounted the breakup mere seconds into us meeting. Immediately, I told him I wasn’t interested. He then realized his mistake and apologized, and said the following:

I haven’t been with anyone since my ex. I forgot how to do this!

His honesty hit a chord. We went on a date the following week.

So, gentlemen, I hope to have eased the stress of approaching a fine lady. If you ever find yourself exhibiting these behaviors, remember that it’s not too late to make a change. Take a deep breath, be yourself, and try again. Because first impressions are everything.

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About The Author

Sujeiry Gonzalez is a vibrant writer, author and on-air talent that tells it like it is -- with just a little more sass and a ton of laughs. Coined the ‘Latina Carrie Bradshaw,’ she is the host of “The Sweet Spot with Sujeiry” on ChicRebellion TV. She’s rocked the relationship market since 2006, sharing her pearls of wisdom with CNN Latino, Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Latina Magazine, and more. Author of Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles, the 2013 Love Guru on Exitos 93.9FM owns LoveSujeiry Magazine – a community for women to dish on love, dating, sex and The Power of Self-First.

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