The first time I used a sex toy I was suffering through a self-imposed sex drought. I had promised myself to keep my legs closed until I found a suitable partner who was caring and ready to commit, and there was no man in sight. So I ventured out, purchased a sex toy and went to town – by myself. Me and B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend) had quite a love affair.
Although it was amazing to have a substitute penis, I eventually missed the real thing. No matter how many orgasms I experienced or how uncomplicated things were with B.O.B there is nothing like a real man’s touch, among other things. Men truly are better than sex toys, and here is why:
That Tender Touch
And by tender I don’t just mean getting stroked. Ultimately, women want to feel a man’s touch. “You can’t cuddle with sex toys,” said Dana from New York City. “A sex toy can’t tickle you either,” she continued. They also can’t hug us when we’re having a terrible day, or listen when we need to complain. A man can! Women need and desire all of these things that a sex toy cannot provide.
Pillow Talk
One of the best ways to connect with your partner is to partake in pillow talk. You lay your head on your almohada and share your deepest desires, fantasies and secrets. This is when and where intimacy grows in a relationship. Women cannot have an intimate relationship with a sex toy. We may bond sexually (some sex toys can be addictive) but there is no emotional bond or connection. Ultimately, using sex toys can feel as empty as a drunken one-night stand.
Rough Play
“A toy can’t pull your hair while taking care of business.” That’s what Maria from Brooklyn said. There are ways that men can turn a woman on that a sex toy just can’t, like smacking our asses or talking dirty. No matter how over the top the sex toy (ball gag, anyone?) a woman wants a man with whom to get freaky.
The Unexpected
A sex toy does what it does. You buy it at the store and it comes with specific instructions and dos and don’ts. Some sex toys can be submerged in water; others can only be splashed. And then there’s the hunt for batteries. So you see why women like Mayra rather have a man. “It’s kind of fun when a man throws in something totally unexpected,” the New Jersey resident explained. “A toy, yeah you kind of know what’s going to happen next!”
Turning Men On
For me, there is nothing better than going at it cowboy style with my man. He feels like such an hombre – because he is! You cannot mount a sex toy, and they only get turned on with batteries. Men get turned on by what we do to them; our sexual prowess and skills are put to use! And women feel sexy and desired when doing so. We want to rock a guy’s world and hear him moan. A sex toy, on the other hand, lets out only one sound: bzzzz!
No matter how you look at it women need and desire men sexually. It doesn’t matter how big the dildo; a sex toy will never match the weight and feel of a man. And that’s why women will always desire the real deal.